The Five Love Languages

How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Relationships)

By Gary Chapman

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Average Rating: (See all 5 reviews) Format: Paperback, 204 pages, New edition Edition Published In: United States, 31 December 1995 Other Editions: Paperback, USA $28.98 View Quantity Available: 2 24 hour shipping From The Publisher: Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical TouchDr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.Skillful communication is within your grasp!Click here for the Study Guide for Spouse and Group Discussion Publisher: Northfield Publishing,U.S. ISBN: 1881273156 EAN: 9781881273158 Dimensions: 22.0 x 152.0 x 1.0 centimeters

For me personally the Five Love languages book gave me a lot of insight into my own life and relationships, and I was able to see certain past events in a new light. It made sense, was easy to read and its ideas could easily be applied into my own life. Each of us has a primary love language, and when people speak that language to us it goes straight to our heart. If they don’t speak our language we may never feel sure that they really do care. (This goes for any kind of relationship, not just couples)

Essential foundational information for married couples!!! If you have not heard about the Love Languages before, get this book - you will not be disappointed! Everyone gives and receives love differently - this book will help you discover your love language - what makes you feel the most loved by your spouse?- when they get you a gift? when they spend quality time with you? when they give you a compliment? when the give you a hug? or, when they do something for you, like washing the dishes?? This book is extremely helpful for all relationships!! A fantastic wedding or engagement gift too!

the original and still the best. i love all the languages of love series. but this is the one that started it all. if you watch oprah you would know about this book. it is very telling and also helps you understand your friends even, eg why some are obsessed with giving presents will some must always spend physical time with you etc... it is almost a personality type book in a way, and how to work out what ones currency is lets you know how to make them feel loved and what they fear most

Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love. ~Gary Chapman

It is amazing how you will just have learned a lesson and then read it in a book, however, there are many lessons you don't want to learn five years from now. This book is filled with ideas on how you can immediately transform your relationship from a cold grave to a peaceful island resort. Perhaps you want to change your life into an amazing adventure or you want to calm the storms.

Gary Chapman presents five love languages. One of these languages may be your primary love language, but he takes it further and explores the dialects of love. I think that many of us want all five languages, but there are various ways each can be expressed.

Gary explains the five languages in detail and finally you will understand why some people don't respond to your gifts and others go wild with happy kitten joy. When you meet someone who shares your primary language it can feel like you have entered a magical country where everyone is speaking your language.

For some individuals, "words of encouragement" will be much higher on their list than "the show of love through gifts" or "acts of service."

I had trouble deciding which language was my favorite, but I know I get a bit happy when I receive gifts. However, I noticed that I never complain about not receiving gifts. Gary actually made it easier to figure out when he started to talk about what you complain about most. I normally say: "You are not listening to me."

While I enjoy gifts, I'm never demanding in this area. So then I considered "Quality Time." Bingo, I was very concerned about "Quality Conversation." There is definitely "bliss" in "sympathetic dialogue." This is actually a rare thing indeed. When you talk to people, most of the time they are more worried about what they are going to say next and when you find someone who actually listens to what you are saying and responds in a way that makes you feel understood, that is bliss.

So, I was very happy to have discovered my primary love language and I also figured out why people in my life don't always respond to gifts in the way I think they would. Some do and they will be getting more boxes of homemade cookies, for sure. ;)

Gary does bring out various aspects of love that make you realize that love is not just a happy feeling of infatuation. It was interesting to read about how long the initial bliss stage lasts in most relationships and then to read about the decline and divorce rates for first, second and third marriages.

There are examples in this book that present great hope for marriages that have grown cold or are on the rocks. Even one partner can read this book and change their relationship.

There is a study guide at the end of the book and the questions can be used at home or in a class setting.

"The Five Love Languages" is an essential book for marriage counselors, couples and anyone who wants to figure out how their partner responds to various forms of love.

~TheRebeccaReview.com

Easy to read and so insightful about myself, others and how they fit in together. SO many books about relationships say there are hundreds of ways to show and give love but they all come down to 5 basic areas/ categories or "love laguages". Quality time, words of affirmation, gifts (incidently mine), acts of service and physical touch. I heard of this book through peers at church and finally got a copy... now I understand and wonder what I would have done without the knowledge in this book. Totally changes how you relate to others! A must have.

Man, this is a good book with a great message - learn to love others how they would like to be loved! The five love languages - physical touch, words of encouragement, gifts, acts of service and quality time - provide a wonderful insight into a richer and more rewarding relationships. I used to but my wife gifts, when all she wanted was for me to make a cup of tea and do some housework! It may sound obvious, but life ain't that simple, and this book is great!

This is a great book that gives insight into how you and your spouse work - what makes each other tick. While I found it easy to read and understand, I found it pretty difficult to apply as I really couldn't pick where I was - which of the love languages was most important to me - or where my husband was - and he found it difficult to choose as well. Great for marriages that need some revitalisation...