Stop Walking on Eggshells

Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

By Randy Kreger, Paul T. Mason

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Average Rating: (See all reviews) Format: Paperback, 240 pages Published In: USA, 1 August 1998 Other Editions: Paperback, USA $34.99 View Ships within 6-11 days A self-help guide for family and friends of individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder. Chapters cover personal limits and boundaries, communicating more effectively, suicide and self-mutilation, dealing with a borderline child or parent, and finding effective professional help. From The Publisher: A guide for the family and friends of BPD sufferers, this book is designed to help you understand how the disorder affects your loved ones and recognize what you can do to establish your personal limits. Enforce boundaries, communicate more effectively, cope with self-destructive behavior, and help take care of the people you love. Publisher: New Harbinger Publications,U.S. ISBN: 157224108X EAN: 9781572241084 Dimensions: 22.8 x 15.2 x 1.9 centimetres (0.38 kg)

Inner-Directed Stage. Eventually, non-BPs look inward and conduct an honest apparaisal of themselves. It takes two people to have a relationship, and the goal for non-BPs in this stage is to better understand their role in making the relationship what it now is. The objective here is not self-recrimination, but insight and self-discovery.

Decision-Making Stage. Armed with knowledge and insight, non-BPs struggle to make decisions about the relationship. This stage can often take months or years. Non-BPs in this stage need to clearly understand their own values, beliefs, expectations, and assumptions. For example, one man with a physically violent borderline wife came from a conservative family that strongly disapprove of divorce. His friends counseled him to separate from her, but he felt unable to do so because of his concern about how his family would react. You may find that your beliefs and values have served you well throughout your life. Or you may find that you inherited them from your family without determining whether or not they truly reflect who you are. Either way, it is important to be guided by your OWN values--not someone else's.

Resolution Phase. In this final stage, non-BPs implement their decisions and live with them. Depending upon the type of relationship, some non-BPs may, over time, change their minds many times and try different alternatives.

And:

....When it comes to chosen relationships, we found that the BP's willingness to admit they had a problem and seek help was by far the determining factor as to whether the couple stayed together or not....

If you are looking at this right now, know that you are not alone. There are countless others who understand all you have been through for nothing. Get on the non-BP mailing list at Randi Kreger's site and buy this book NOW. It can and will save your life, whatever you decide.

This book is the most practical, hands-on help that anyone faced with having to assist, or live with a sufferer or borderline personality disorder, could possibly read.
The advice and suggestions in it are so useful that it has been a huge help to our family. We were using a borrowed copy from the library but found that it was such a good handbook of tools that we bought a copy. We have read other books by the same author but, being in direct need of accessing help immediately, this title was by far the best of the series.

This book is the most practical, hands-on help that anyone faced with having to assist, or live with a sufferer or borderline personality disorder, could possibly read.
The advice and suggestions in it are so useful that it has been a huge help to our family. We were using a borrowed copy from the library but found that it was such a good handbook of tools that we bought a copy. We have read other books by the same author but, being in direct need of accessing help immediately, this title was by far the best of the series.

this is really informative read and it helped me get through a rough time i had when my aunt was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. i didnt even know what borderline personality disorder was it first but this book helped me out more than i can say. it provided me with much needed knowledge to help my aunt.