Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction

PART I: THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-NURTURING

1 Being There for Yourself

2 CARESS: Six Key Ways to Nurture Yourself

3 Why We Are the Way We Are

PART II: TEN STEPS TO LIKING THE PERSON YOU ARE

4 Step One: Recognizing Your Good Points and Believing in Yourself

5 Step Two: Looking at How You Berate Yourself

6 Step Three: Recognizing the Real You

7 Step Four: Finding Out Who Taught You to Feel Bad about Yourself

8 Step Five: Letting Go and Liking Yourself

9 Step Six: You Be You and I'll Be Me

10 Step Seven: Learning What You Need to Feel Nurtured and Step Eight: Opening Your Heart to Your Inner-Child

11 Step Nine: How to Listen with Your Heart and Talk so You'll Be Heard: Learning Empathic Communication

12 Step Ten: Giving Yourself the Nurturance You Need

PART III: NURTURING YOURSELF IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS

13 Nurturing Yourself When Anxious

14 Nurturing Yourself When Depressed

15 Nurturing Yourself While Raising Children

16 Nurturing Yourself While Making Love

17 Nurturing Yourself at Work

A Final Word

Suggested Readings

Notes

Index

About the Author

Carolynn Hillman is a Board-Certified Diplomate in clinical social work. She received her BA from Barnard College, her MSW from Hunter College, and her psychoanalytic training at the National Institute of the Psychotherapies. She is also an AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) certified sex therapist. For the past twenty-four years she has been helping women and men fulfill their potential and raise their self-esteem. She lives in Teaneck, New Jersey, with her husband and two daughters and maintains a private practice in New York City of individual, couple, and group therapy.