Table of Contents
Foreword - Tony Attwood. 1. Introduction - Gisela. 2. Terminology -
Gisela. 3. Relationships - Chris. 4. How we met - Gisela. 5.
Diagnosis - Chris. 6. ICD-10 Criteria for Asperger Syndrome. 7.
Diagnosis - Gisela. 8. Communication - Chris. 9. Communication -
Gisela. 10. Affection, sentimentality and intimacy - Chris. 11.
Intimacy, romance and intuition - Gisela. 12. Sex. 13. Living
together - Chris. 14. Living together - Gisela. 15. Parenthood -
Chris. 16. Parenthood - Gisela. 17. Social life - Chris. 18. Social
life - Gisela. 19. Employment - Gisela. 20. The future - Chris. 21.
Postscript - Gisela. Bibliography.
Married for 12 years at the time of writing, the story of living
and loving together
About the Author
Gisela and Chris Slater-Walker have been partners for eleven years.
Both gained BA (Hons) in Russian Studies from Manchester
University. Gisela is an English teacher at Aylesbury High School.
This fascinating book is a joint venture between Gisela and
Chris. They have each written frankly of their own perceptions of
their marriage and reflect with great sensitivity on the impact
which Asperger's syndrome has had on their 12 years of living
together. It is likely to be of particular interest to those
involved in marital counselling.'If you are looking for a sensitive
and enlightening insight into an 11-year-old marriage between a man
diagnosed with Asperger's and his long-suffering wife, look no
further than this excellent book... the heartening message is that,
despite the immense obstacles - both within the marriage and from
the lack of facilities available - here is a couple that have
managed to go a long way towards bridging that "yawning chasm".
-- Looking UP
[When] one partner has Asperger syndrome, making the diagnosis can
be problematic, but giving advice on coping and understanding the
condition is even more problematic. That is why reading Chris and
Gisela's book was so fascinating and helpful.They do not pretend
that it is easy, but their factual information with some poignant
yet amusing anecdotes make this an enjoyable, as well as
informative, book to read. I would highly recommend the book for
couples where one partner has Asperger syndrome and for
professionals, not only those working in this field, but anyone who
works with people with relationship difficulties. It is definitely
on my list of recommended reading. -- Communication
A humane and tender book...Chris's writing itself has done more to
explain to me what Asperger syndrome involves than any
`description' I have previously read...The book is hopeful without
being soppy and brave without being boastful. -- Open Mind
This book is the first to examine a successful marriage from both
perspectives and provides knowledge that will be of value, not only
to similar couples and individuals with Asperger Syndrome who are
considering a relationship, but also the organizations that support
relationships. -- from the foreword by Tony Attwood
This book is the first of its kind and is an essential read for
couples, parents and professionals involved or interested in
gaining a deeper understanding into the uncharted territory of
Asperger marriages. -- Maxine Aston, Relate Trainer and Couple
Counsellor specialising in relationships affected by Asperger
Syndrome and author of `The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome'.
A very readable book, pastors may welll find it helpful for their
own understanding, but also as a resource to pass on to couples
concerned for their autistic child, as also to people suffering
from this particular disability. -- Ministry Today
This is a book of real value to people with a personal experience
of AS and one which will also be reassuring to parents of children
diagnosed with AS. I would particularly recommend it as a quick
read to both social and health care professionals who are involved
in making assessments, trying to understand the `person' and
attempting to enable people with AS to achieve their own
aspirations. -- Professional Social Work Magazine