Christina Dalpiaz is uniquely passionate, committed and eloquent in her efforts to make our communities safer for children and more aware of the epidemic of domestic violence. Her voice needs to be listened to and heeded by all who work in the domestic violence and child abuse fields. -- Betty J. Wytias^LAssistant Attorney General^LDomestic Violence Policy Advisor^LColorado Attorney General's Office This book is really about your future. It's about being brave and being smart. It's about rebuilding trust. It's about discovering your true self. It's about being your best because your children deserve your best. Asking for help is a sign of strength and perhaps this book is the first step in your journey toward a safe new world. -- Joanne R. Blum^LExecutive Director, Families First^LDenver, Colorado This is a must read for any adult who has been involved in domestic violence, as well as, for any clinician and Victim Advocate. Ms. Dalpiaz has explicitly captured the impact that domestic violence has on children and has given practical guidance to parents as to how to positively change and appropriately respond to their children in a style that empowers victims rather than blame them. I...would highly recommend this book to any parent who has been involved in domestic violence and desires to change. I believe this should be a must book for men who have been abusive and have children. -- John Cogley^LDirector^LColorado Approved Domestic Violence Tx Provider
Acknowledgments Introduction The Grooming Process The Mask of Anger Breaking the Communication Barriers Attitude Adjustment Sabotage Just Behave Yourself Control Monkey in the Middle Labels To Be or Not to Be a Victim Success Is Your Final Answer
CHRISTINA M. DALPIAZ is a certified Victims' Advocate and Founder as well as Executive Director of CHANCE (Changing How Adults Nurture Children's Egos), a nonprofit agency based in Denver, Colorado. An international speaker, she was voted Child Advocate of the Year in 1998 by the Aurora Family Violence Response Team. Her dedication to helping families is actually a second career. Dalpiaz previously served in the U.S. Naval Reserves and retired as a Lieutenant Commander.
"Ms. Dalpiaz' work is an excellent resource for battered families and the people who love and work with them. Her presentation illustrates how victimization occurs and what needs to happen to heal from family violence. Then she shows how to parent more effectively so children have a chance for a happy and violence-free childhood." - Rocky Mountain PBS "Dalpiaz wrote the book for parents who need guidance in helping children affected by family violence, it also will be useful for social workers, teachers, foster parents, and clergy who want to better understand children from violent homes." - Coloradoan "[P]rovides helpful techniques for reparenting children who've been exposed to domestic violence." - Library Journal, Starred Review "This book provides strategies for helping abuse victims, generally mothers, mitigate the damage done to children by the environment created by the abusive parent. Dalpiaz, an abuse survivor herself, presents a clear, concise book detailing possible effect of family violence on children and the steps that can be taken to reverse the developmental damage done by the abuse....This compelling blend of personal and professional instruction makes this book exceptionally informative but still extremely accessible to the reader....She presents scenarios that could negatively impact the child, such as unsympathetic teachers or further manipulation by the abusive parent, and provides strategies for achieving positive outcomes. It is a wonderfully instructive book that is sure to be of value to any parent in the aftermath of abuse, as well as to teachers, foster parents, and anyone else who has contact with a child exposed to family violence." - VOYA "[T]his book is recommended for parenting collections in public and consumer mental health libraries." - Library Journal