Table of Contents

Foreword Introduction: What is conjured when we talk about the everyday lives of gay men? 1. 17 times a day I think about being gay 2. Shower thoughts – of loss and queer love 3. Christmases past and present: A Phet tee saam lamb’s search for their flock 4. Sunday: An intimate self-dialogue about loneliness 5. On (not) living past 30 6. Going back to the glory hole: An (extra)ordinary story of meeting shame, doubt and arousal in the therapy room 7. Becoming (in)visible: A performative autoethnography on mental health, help-seeking, and missing connections 8. Lack of ordinary privileges in a gay man’s life: Navigating through privileged systems 9. I dreamt of a stranger 10. Testing proximity and intimacy: An everyday reappropriation of private and public space 11. In my Latinx gay shoes: Work, discrimination, immigration, and polyamory 12. Planetary times and queer times: A critical planetary romanticism for the earth 13. Notes on the contributor’s experiences: Insights into autoethnographic research Conclusion

About the Author

Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans is a qualitative researcher and mental health practitioner interested in the study of identities, sexualities, the everyday lives of LGBTQIA+ people, and the use of performing arts in research. He completed a PhD in counselling studies at the University of Edinburgh. He is a lecturer in counselling and psychotherapy at the University of Salford.

Jason Holmes works as a psychotherapist and writer. His research examines the ways gay male friendship groups can take on qualities commonly associated with cults and the emotional harm such groups can inflict on their members. He completed his doctorate in psychotherapy at the University of Edinburgh and is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.