How I Overcame Social Anxiety
An Introvert's Guide to Recovering from Social Anxiety, Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem
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|Format: ||Paperback, 180 pages|
|Other Information: ||black & white illustrations|
|Published In: ||United States, 18 April 2016|DO YOU FEEL NERVOUS AROUND PEOPLE & DON'T KNOW WHY?
Are you tired of worrying what others are thinking of you all the time? Do you feel uncomfortable in public and can't ever seem to relax around people? Are you tired of that critical voice inside your head that's always putting you down? Have you tried to overcome your social anxiety & shyness before and nothing worked? Do you believe you're 'beyond help' or 'born this way' and things will never change? I suffered from professionally diagnosed social anxiety disorder and generalized anxiety disorder for over a decade. The majority of my 20's I was on strong antidepressant medication. Instead of being the best, those were the most unhappy years of my life. In public I felt nervous and awkward ALL THE TIME. I couldn't go to shopping malls or social gatherings without feeling like I was naked and on display. I couldn't even talk to old friends and my own family without getting nervous around them! For years I didn't tell anyone about this and suffered in silence. I felt lonely, depressed and ashamed about this 'disorder' that no matter how hard I tried, just wouldn't seem to go away. I was confused and upset as to why this was happening to me. I know how it feels to live with social anxiety 24/7, 365 days a year. The suffering, the shame, the lack of understanding from family and friends. The feeling that no-one really understands what you're going through. I understand. This is why I can help.
I truly believed I was 'born shy' and would have social anxiety for life. I am here to prove to you that social anxiety and shyness is not a life sentence and you can get over these conditions, no matter where you currently are. I am living proof of that. This book documents my entire journey through social anxiety; the factors that caused it and the exact steps I took to find my healing and regain control of my life. In this book, you'll learn:
- The real causes behind your social anxiety & shyness (it's not what you think)
- My step-by-step guide for overcoming social anxiety & shyness (follow what I did)
- How I learned to stop fearing the opinions and judgments of others
- How to let go of perfectionism and always putting yourself down
- What I learned from spending over $35,000 on alternative therapies
- How to finally start liking and accepting yourself
- How to lower anxiety and self-consciousness in minutes, not years
This book provides you with a proven roadmap to overcome social anxiety, explained by someone who has actually gone through the process and found a way out of it.
Table of Contents
Introduction What Is Social Anxiety (And How Do I Know if I Have It?) Why Get Help? How Can I Help? How to Get the Most out of This Book Born This Way? My Story Contributing Factors: There was more than one Chapter 1 - Thoughts & Beliefs The 2 Prison Fences Wanting Someone Else to Fix You Acceptance Without Judgment: I stopped beating myself up I Changed the Words I Was Using to Describe My Condition I Focused More on the Solution (and Less on the Problem) I Took My Power Back (The victim mentality) Hi Im Tobi and I Aim to Please (People pleasing) You Do You & Ill Do Me (People will always judge) I Stopped Accepting Other Peoples Opinions as Fact Are You a People Pleaser or Approval Seeker? Who Am I? (Get clear on exactly who you are) Are You an Honest Person? Why Do I Care so Much What Others Think of Me? Are You a Mind Reader? Perfectionism: I let go of my need to be perfect Accept Yourself (Flaws and all) I Choose to Feel Good Self Love (I learned how to love myself) I Stopped Looking for My Worth Outside of Myself (Self love, Part 2) Unhelpful Beliefs (Knock out the kingpins and the rest will fall) I Started Challenging My Limiting Beliefs Reframing Negative Beliefs The Deadly I am Disease Beliefs Exercise Its Not the Event That Hurts: Its the Meaning We Give to the Event I Stopped Taking Things so Personally (Not everything is about me) Watch Your Mouth! (I worked on my self-talk until my worst enemy became my best friend) Your Thoughts Are Not You Predicting the Future (Worst-case scenario thinking) The Man in the Mirror (Self-image) Self-Image Exercise Visualization: The blueprint to becoming the person you want to be Visualization Exercise I Remembered My Good Points and Wins I Stopped Comparing Myself to Others Search Your Feelings Luke I Chose My Company More Wisely Give Thanks EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) What to Do When Youre Feeling Anxious or Self-Conscious (This is what I did) Irrational Fears Easier Said Than Done Summary Chapter 2 - Actions & Exposure Social Situations (How avoiding social situations contributes to social anxiety & how to overcome it) You Need to Have a Strong WHY We Learn by Doing There Will Always Be Pain The Uncomfortable Comfort Zone Courage: The #1 confidence builder Fear of Failure: Processing failure and rejection the right way Conversation Techniques & Social Skills Things Will Be Different Now (You have the mental tools) Confidence Comes From Practice Rationalizations & Hidden Excuses: Are you lying to yourself to justify your avoidance behaviors? I Stopped Making Excuses The Negative Spiral of Avoidance I Held Myself Accountable Deathbed Exercise Social Confidence Building Exercises: Some of the Ways I Became More Social Designing Your Own Social Exposure Plan It Has to Be a Regular Thing Take It in Baby Steps & Celebrate the Small Victories I Let Go of the Outcome You Win Some, You Lose Some: Either way, people dont care Keep Seeing the Big Picture: Its a gradual process, not an On-Off switch Momentum Is Your Best Friend Right Action Over Emotion: I made a commitment to be sociable, regardless of how I was feeling Summary Chapter 3 - Healthy Diet Lifestyle & Diet Play a Huge Part Antidepressants Xanax Natural Antidepressants Alcohol Recreational Drugs Healthy Eating Chapter 4 - Lifestyle Choices I Cut Out Stress from My Life I Turned off the News and Stopped Reading Internet Comments Exercise - I went to the gym 30 Mins of Sunlight and Nature Every Day I Decided to Work Fewer Hours I Began Meditating Every Day Living a Balanced Life In Closing Further Guidance
About the Author
My life has been full of ups and downs. I am a living proof that you can overcome your biggest fears and achieve anything you want in life as long as you just have the courage to take the first step and not give up. I spent most of my teens and twenties depressed, lonely and on strong antidepressants. By age 27, I had given up on ever overcoming my social anxiety & shyness. Jesse Krieger was born and raised in San Francisco but spends three to four months a year traveling the world. Whether it's climbing volcanoes with friends in the Mediterranean or consulting with clients from Malaysia to Manhattan, Jesse views the world as both a playground and a potential addressable market.
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