* INTRODUCTION * Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued? (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) * "THE CHANGER AND THE CHANGED": EX-LOVERS AS CONTEXTS FOR DEVELOPMENT * To All the Girls I Left Before (Alison Bechdel) * Tenth Anniversary (Jill Stranger) * Coming Out of My Closet (Barbara Brown) * In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers' Unconventional Convention (Pat Pomerleau Chavez) * These Most Difficult Tasks (Karen Heise) * Passion (Marilyn Lee) * MOVING COSTS: CHALLENGES OF (RE)DEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND DEALING WITH UNFINISHED BUSINESS * Still the One (Susan McCully) * Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers (Tammie M. Kennedy) * Daring to Take the Risk (Myra Betschild and Adrienne Fortanier) * Family Affairs (L. J. "Tess" Tessier) * Highly Favored Ex (Gina Perille) * For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her (Renny Christopher) * TOO MUCH TSORAS? THE HIGH COSTS OF MAINTAINING TIES * Truth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between (Marilyn Lee) * Temporary Temptation (Cecilia Stanton) * Lost Love (Renny Christopher) * Neurotic Love Letters (tatiana de la tierra) * Goodbye to My Lover (Michelle Gibson) * Leaving Liza (Jane Futcher) * Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts (Dr. Dyke) * NOT LOVERS BUT NOT "JUST FRIENDS": RECONSTRUCTING FAMILIES, FRIENDSHIPS, AND COMMUNITIES * PERSONAL STORIES * I'm Not Lisa (Kate Brown) * The House on Transcript Avenue (Bernadette Barton) * The Politics of Potlucks (Barbara Esrig) * Family Doggerel (Becky Thacker) * The Visit (Marilyn Lee) * Irritating and Constricting/Elating and Elastic--Being "Ex" as a Lesbian (Fe Day) * THEORETICAL REFLECTIONS * Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Tabitha Eden) * When Three's a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love (Kelly McWilliam) * Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships (Susan B. Fitzgerald) * Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) * AFTERWORD * The Migration of the Mythic Lesbian (Marny Hall) * Index
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