Introduction 1. Daughters and Sons for the Rest of Their Lives 2. Better Blatant Than Latent 3. What's Wrong with the Boys Nowadays? 4. Out of the Closets, Out of the Kitchens 5. ''Every Generation Has Its War'' Epilogue: Mom, Dad, I'm Gay Notes Selected Bibliography Index
Heather Murray teaches history at the University of Ottawa.
"Elegantly written and exemplary in its approach and method, bringing the 'evidence of experience' into conversation with social, cultural, political, and national contexts in ways that are both nuanced and deeply felt."-Journal of Family History "Not in This Family is wonderfully fresh and innovative. Murray manages to train her eye on children and parents both and is especially adept at examining their exchanges, longings for understanding, and mutual frustrations. This generational angle also allows Murray to perceive larger transformations in norms of privacy, disclosure, and intimacy. Most impressive is her ability to show how new kinds of relationships between parents and children emerged as cultural politics shifted: from the 'gay banishment' motif of the early postwar period, to the liberationist confrontations of the 1970s, to the 'ritualized' parental empathy of the 1980s, to the coming-out narrative of the 1990s. On top of all that, the book is lucidly written and a pleasure to read."-Sarah Igo, author of The Averaged American: Surveys, Citizens, and the Making of a Mass Public "Not in This Family represents both an important new direction for historical research in lesbian and gay studies and a useful addition to the literature on the American family."-Journal of American History