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1 A World that Majors in Control 2 Why Discipline Doesn't Work 3 Is It Really for Your Child's "Own Good"? 4 Let Consequences Do Their Job 5 How Rescuing Our Children Teaches Irresponsibility 6 Rudeness, Biting, and Hitting: How to Make Your Child's Limits Clear 7 Your Children Are Here to Challenge Your Integrity 8 How to Say "Yes" or "No" Effectively 9 You're Not a Moviemaker 10 Abandon the Idea of Perfection 11 A Strong Child Lives Here 12 It's Not about You 13 Learn to Read Your Child's Cues 14 What It Means to Honor Your Child 15 Is What You Are Asking Fair? 16 How to Stay Sane as Your Child Goes Through Phases 17 Tricking Children Is Tricky Business 18 What to Do When Your Child Shuts You Out 19 The Rule about Rules 20 How to Respond to a Teen Who Rebels 21 Avoid Homework Battles 22 Why Do Children Bully? 23 The Challenge of Sibling Rivalry and Children Who Can't Get Along with Other Children 24 When You Spare the Rod, You Don't Spoil Your Child 25 In Defense of Parents 26 How to Be an Effective Parent 27 Let's Connect 28 W Is for Witness 29 I Is for Inquire 30 N Is for Neutrality 31 N Is for Negotiate 32 E Is for Empathize 33 R Is for Resolve Afterword Tips for Staying Sane in the Conflict Zone

About the Author

Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University, New York. Dr. Shefali was exposed to Eastern philosophy at an early age and integrates its teachings with Western psychology. This blend of East and West allow her to reach a global audience and establishes her as one of a kind in the field of mindfulness psychology. She lectures extensively on mindful living and conscious parenting around the world and currently has a private psychotherapy practice in New York City. She has a strong following on social media, posts regularly on Huffington Post, and can be seen on uTube and Ted Talk. Her books include It's a Mom: What You Should Know about the Early Years of Motherhood and The Conscious Parent, which has been heavily endorsed by Oprah Winfrey. She lives in New York City.


The patterns of behavior we witness in childhood become the template for our own way of parenting. It's because discipline focuses on behavior, not on the feel- ings driving the behavior, that it undercuts the very thing we are trying to accomplish. We've been so schooled to impose "lessons" on our children that it feels counterintuitive to allow the lesson to emerge naturally out of the situation. The reality is that children learn not because we tell them, but from how we relate to them. It's the differ- ence between "doing to" ver- sus "doing with." To give a child things or deprive them because to do so matches our subconscious agenda--our unresolved emo- tional baggage--rather than aligning with their develop- mental needs, is to court conflict. Each moment with our child is a reflection of the past and a foundation for the future. It's the dynamic that arises from insisting on our paren- tal agenda that creates the need for discipline. When it comes to accepting ourselves as imperfect, we set the tone for our children. The degree to which they accept their imperfections tends to be the degree to which we accept and honor our own. To be present for our children means to be aware of our own subconscious agenda so we don't impose this on our children. If a parent puts out the kind of vibes that welcome feel- ings, even when the feelings are difficult to tolerate, the child picks up on this, eventually learning how to manage their feelings in a healthy manner. There are all kinds of ways we can help our children cope with their world. Creativity is what's needed, not admonish- ment or discipline. Our children didn't come into the world to be our puppets. They came here to struggle, fumble, thrive, and enjoy--a journey for which they need our encouragement.

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