Table of Contents

• 1 Be yourself 
• 2 Get over it before you get on with it 
• 3 You won't be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own 
• 4 You'll know them when you meet them 
• 5 Choose someone who makes you laugh
• 6 Being less than a hundred per cent attractive is a great filter 
• 7 Don't keep making the same mistakes
• 8 Certain people are off limits (you know who they are) 
• 9 You can't change people 
• 10 Relationships aren't about sex 
• 11 Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions 
• 12 Don't stay with someone who doesn't care 
• 13 If you can't trust them, you haven't got a relationship
• 14 Be honest (while you still have the chance) 
• 15 Don't play games
• 16 Don't tar new partners with old brushes 
• 17 Check you both have the same shared goals
• 18 Create the power balance you both want 
• 19 You can't make someone love you
• 20 Be cruel to be kind
• 21 Be nice 
• 22 Be together because you want to, not because you need to 
• 23 Allow your partner the space to be themselves 
• 24 Look to your own faults 
• 25 Be honourable 
• 26 Put each other first 
• 27 Recognize the signs
• 28 Be a hero - or a heroine 
• 29 Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common 
• 30 Don't belittle your partner 
• 31 You want to do what? 
• 32 Let not the sun go down upon your wrath 
• 33 Be the first to say sorry
• 34 Let them have the last word 
• 35 Houston, we have a problem 
• 36 Don't put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there 
• 37 Know when to listen and when to act 
• 38 Never stop trying to be attractive 
• 39 If you can say something nice, do 
• 40 Don't try to be their parent 
• 41 Be part of their life 
• 42 If little things annoy you, say so - with humour 
• 43 Go that extra step in trying to please them 
• 44 Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you 
• 45 Don't dump responsibility on your partner 
• 46 Let them know if you don't like their friends 
• 47 Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs 
• 48 Your partner is more important than your kids 
• 49 Make time for romance 
• 50 Have a passion for your life together 
• 51 Share the workload 
• 52 Trust the other one to do the job 
• 53 Don't be a nag 
• 54 Make sure your love making is making love 
• 55 Don't control them 
• 56 Listen to what they're not saying 
• 57 Most everyday arguments are about something else 
• 58 Respect privacy 
• 59 Treat your partner better than your best friend 
• 60 Don't be offended if they want some space 
• 61 Men like flowers too 
• 62 Keep your finances separate 
• 63 Contentment is a high aim 
• 64 Be generous to each other financially
• 65 You make a choice every day 
• 66 Don't be a martyr 
• 67 Stop sniping - someone has to
• 68 You don't both have to have the same rules 
• 69 Do it their way if it matters more to them 
• 70 Put yourself in their shoes 
• 71 In-laws are part of the package
• 72 Keep talking 
• 73 Don't blame your parents 
• 74 Don't let your parents control your feelings 
• 75 Your children come before you 
• 76 Nothing is worth falling out over 
• 77 Don't shout at the people you love 
• 78 Treat them right, no matter how they treat you 
• 79 There are no circumstances in which it is ever acceptable to say 'I told you so' 
• 80 Don't pressurize your family just because you can 
• 81 Never be too busy for loved ones 
• 82 Make the effort 
• 83 Your children need to fall out with you to leave home 
• 84 They don't have to be the same as you 
• 85 Accept people's flaws 
• 86 There's always stuff with siblings 
• 87 Let go of your role 
• 88 What will be left of you? 
• 89 There are no rules 
• 90 Your best friend was once a stranger 
• 91 Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse 
• 92 If you're going to be a friend, be a good friend 
• 93 Forgive
• 94 Never give advice
• 95 Don't make other people uncomfortable
• 96 Find friends who love the truth 
• 97 Never lend money unless you're prepared to write it off 
• 98 If you don't like their partner, tough 
• 99 When one finger points forwards, three point back 
• 100 Friendships change 
• 101 Know when to let go
• 102 Bitterness helps no one 
• 103 People are more important than things 
• 104 Guilt is a selfish emotion 
• 105 Love equals time 
• 106 The more you put out, the more you get back
• 107 Other people are where it's at
• 108 Listen to your own internal voice
• 109 Recognize that it takes two
• 110 It doesn't have to be anyone's fault
• 111 Keep the moral high ground
• 112 Don't keep raking it over
• 113 Leave the kids out of it
• 114 Remember they're not a monster
• 115 Identify your own mistakes
• 116 Choose friends you can trust
• 117 There is life beyond parting

About the Author

Richard Templar is the author of the international bestselling Rules books. Over 2 million people around the world have enjoyed and now play by Richard Templar's Rules. The complete list of titles is as follows: The Rules of Life, The Rules of Work, The Rules of Management, The Rules of Wealth, The Rules of Parenting, The Rules of Love, The Rules of Everything, The Rules of People, The Rules of Thinking, The Rules to Break and The Rules of Living Well.