Table of Contents

Acknowledgements Introduction: Letter 1: Getting Acquainted Part 1: Sexuality at School Letter 2: Gay Straight Alliances Letter 3: What Will the Parents Say? Letter 4: Religious Concerns Letter 5: Fighting for GSAs in Religious Schools Letter 6: Love Part 2: Gender at School Letter 7: Gender, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression Letter 8: Gender Pronouns Letter 9: Transitioning in Grade 1 Letter 10: Teacher Allyship Letter 11: Listen to the Kids Letter 12: Easy Transitions Letter 13: The Harm We’ve Done Letter 14: Sex Education Part 3: LGBTQ Families at School Letter 15: Mother’s Day and Father’s Day Letter 16: Coming Out, Being Outed Letter 17: Not Coming Out Letter 18: Bullying: The School’s Responsibilities Letter 19: Working with Bullies Letter 20: Queer Parents, Autism, and Learning Disabilities Letter 21: Poly Families Letter 22: Expecting LGBTQ Families and Students at School Conclusion: Letter 23: Take-Aways References An Annotated List of Favourite Resources The Unicorn Glossary Snakes and Ladders Out at School Index

About the Author

Tara Goldstein is Professor of Education in the Department of Curriculum, Teaching and Learning Ontario Institute for Studies in Education of the University of Toronto.

benjamin lee hicks, Jenny Salisbury, and Pam Baer are PhD candidates at the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education, and the Centre for Drama, Performance and Theatre Studies, University of Toronto.

Reviews

'Reading this book is like taking a late afternoon walk with Tara through the incredible archive of stories, research data, resources and relationships that she has lovingly created and curated over the course of her landmark career. There is teaching here, but it is not didactic. The book doesn’t tell teachers what to do. Rather, it engages teachers as they are: people negotiating all kinds of different issues, views and needs while working towards a classroom environment that does less harm to everyone in the name of how gender and sexuality are ‘supposed’ to go. There are as many ways into the work here as there are ways of living gender and sexuality.'—Dr. Lee Airton, Assistant Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies in Education, Queen’s University and author of Gender – Your Guide: A Gender-Friendly Primer on What to Know, What to Say and What to Do in the New Gender Culture

'Reading this book is like taking a late afternoon walk with Tara through the incredible archive of stories, research data, resources and relationships that she has lovingly created and curated over the course of her landmark career. There is teaching here, but it is not didactic. The book doesn’t tell teachers what to do. Rather, it engages teachers as they are: people negotiating all kinds of different issues, views and needs while working towards a classroom environment that does less harm to everyone in the name of how gender and sexuality are ‘supposed’ to go. There are as many ways into the work here as there are ways of living gender and sexuality.'—Dr. Lee Airton, Assistant Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies in Education, Queen’s University and author of Gender – Your Guide: A Gender-Friendly Primer on What to Know, What to Say and What to Do in the New Gender Culture