An internationally recognized expert on resilience in youth, Michael Ungar runs a private practice specializing in working with children and adults in mental health and correctional settings, and is a professor at the School of Social Work at Dalhousie University. He lives in Halifax with his wife and two children.
Can the "Me Generation" of baby boomers raise a "We Generation" of consciously compassionate, less self-involved kids? Canadian psychologist Ungar believes so and has written this guide for parents to help them foster in their offspring a spirit of volunteerism, a willingness to "give back" and a directive to do well by doing good. Each of these eight, action-oriented chapters offers anecdotes, self-evaluation tools, lists of activities and boxed tips as it addresses part of a plan for overcoming the problem of self-centered kids, starting with recognizing and learning that kids want to help and make changes; that compassion leads to connection, which leads to responsibility; how grandparents, neighbors and other parents can join forces; why parent-child affection is so important; how to guide kids spiritually and emotionally; how to avoid kids' isolation and anonymity in society; and strategies for generating excitement about being part of a wider world. Critical to all this is parents' commitment to model what they want to see in their kids. While this book may raise more questions than it answers-can kids who do community service only for college application profiles grow a conscience? or what about rebellious kids who do the opposite of their parents?-it is timely. Just as cardigan-clad Mr. Rogers embodied this concept in his PBS neighborhood, Ungar reframes it for today's families. (Dec.) Copyright 2009 Reed Business Information.
Modern culture has led to a generation of parents hyperfocused on individualism, argues Ungar (social work, Dalhousie Univ.). Kids, however, haven't changed in their desire for compassionate communication, and he pleads with parents to envision a "We" generation of socially responsible kids who have a sense of collective responsibility. Despite the technological tools that make for constant communication, it is the feeling of belonging to something larger than oneself-a child's understanding that he is part of a family and community that values him-that lays the roots for responsible compassion. In chapters analyzing various types of connections-family, spiritual, physical, architectural-Ungar concludes each chapter with a "tips list" for ways to nurture kind connections. This pairs nicely with two other recent standouts: Kim John Payne's Simplicity Parenting and Polly Young-Eisendrath's The Self-Esteem Trap.-Julianne J. Smith, Ypsilanti Dist. Lib., MI Copyright 2009 Reed Business Information.
Praise for Michael Ungar:
"Too Safe for Their Own Good offers us fresh, powerful and deeply relevant ideas about the developmental needs of teenagers. Ungar's thought-provoking book is both wise and practical. All of us parents, therapists and educators who work with adolescents will benefit from his ideas on what teenagers require for optimal growth. This is a paradigm-shifting book." -- Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia