Introduction. 1. "I'm Getting a Brother or Sister!": Kids Develop Expectations Pre-Adoption. 2. "My New Brother or Sister Experienced Trauma: What Does that Mean?". 3. Pre-Adoption Preparation: "Yes, We Brothers and Sisters Need Information". 4. "I Am a 'Quality' Parent!": Reviewing and Refining Your Parenting Strengths. 5. Finally! My New Brother or Sister is Arriving!. 6. "After He Came, Everything Changed!": Post-Placement Common Challenges. 7. "My Brother or Sister Won't be Living with Us Any More": Disruption, Dissolution, Displacement and Other Leavings. 8. "Help Me Cope, Please": Striking a Balance Post-Adoption. 9. Triggers, Losses and Feelings: Facilitating Your Son's and Daughter's Grief. 10. "You Know Your Birthmother and I Don't": Blending Children with Diverse Birth Histories - an Emerging Common Challenge. 11. "My New Sibling's Behaviors Are So Bizarre!" Learning to Be a Peaceful Family Again. 12. Two of the Toughest Behaviors - Sexual-Acting Out and Aggression: Ensuring a Safe, Secure Home Environment. 13. "We Hardly have Family Game Night Anymore": Restoring Family Fun. 15. "Yes, I Have Experienced Positives!" Brothers, Sisters and Adoptees Speak about the Benefits of Adoption. Appendices. References. Index.
A comprehensive yet accessible guide that describes the adoption process and the impact of adoption on every member of the family, including the adopted child
Arleta James, MS, PCC, has been an adoption professional for many years. She spent several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network placing foster children with adoptive families and then as the statewide Matching Specialist. She now works as a clinical therapist at the renowned Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, USA, providing services for attachment difficulties, childhood trauma and issues related to adoption. She was the 1999 Pennsylvania Adoption Professional of the Year.
James has produced an extremely practical, theoretically based book which will have many parents laughing and sometimes, crying...Whether you are interested in pre-placement issues, post-placement concerns, disruption/dissolution, sexual acting out, blending siblings, or marital stress, Welcoming a New Brother or Sister Through Adoption will have something to offer you...I believe that every adoptive family will be better able to deal with difficulties that their children and family may be experiencing. Adoption agencies should consider making this book mandatory reading as a component of their pre-placement training program, and anyone who works with adoptive families will appreciate the deep insight that Arleta James has shared with us. -- Extracted from the foreword by Gregory C. Keck This book is written by an adoption professional... The book mainly focuses on integrating traumatised children into families that typically have children already, whether birth, adopted or step. The book covers all aspects of the needs of traumatised children and their behaviour, as well as lots of parenting advice and help. I especially liked the case studies... I found it incredibly informative. * Side by Side *