Table of Contents

Part I: The Secret Language of Intimacy Workshop. Introduction. Shame & Belonging. Shame Attacks. Couple Shame Cycles. Support and Demos. Part II: Contributors' Essays.Lobb, Being at the Contact Boundary with the Other: The Challenge of Every Couple. Balandrazo, Madero, Work with Couples in Mexico from a Gestalt Approach. Lynch, Lynch, Understanding the Complexity of Intimacy. O'Neill, O'Neill, The Secret Life of Us. Staemmler, Joint Constructions: On the Subject Matter of Gestalt Therapy, Exemplified by Gender-specific Misunderstandings with Regard to Intimacy.

About the Author

Robert G. Lee, Ph.D., co-editor of The Voice of Shame (Jossey-Bass, 1996) and editor of The Values of Connection (Gestalt Press, 2004), has worked with couples for over thirty years, conducted groundbreaking couple research, and trained and presented internationally. He dances, swims, lives and practices psychotherapy in Boston.

Reviews

"Deepen your understanding of your patients, your partner, and your own process by giving yourself the wisdom of Robert Lee's The Secret Language of Intimacy. I've been learning from Robert for years; welcome to the group." - Gordon Wheeler, President and CEO, Esalen Institute, USA "Every therapist will work more thoughtfully and creatively after they read The Secret Language of Intimacy. This book helped me think more clearly to develop an attitude of interest, acceptance and possibility - even for the most despairing of couples." - Lynne Jacobs, Co-founder, Pacific Gestalt Institute, USA "The Secret Language of Intimacy teaches you the hidden meanings of intimate relationships and how to translate them into forms that are useful to both professionals and couples alike." - Camillo Loriedo, Director, Istituto Italiano di Psicoterapia Relazionale, Rome, Italy "A valuable read for every therapist, I found The Secret Language of Intimacy to be thought-provoking, helpful, and informative. I am delighted by its positive influence on my practice." - Gary Yontef, Co-director, Pacific Gestalt Institute, USA