Introduction. Part I:You and Your Defiant Teen. What Defiance Is - and What You Should Do about It. How Defiance Develops. What Does Adolescence Have to Do with It? Is It Just Your Teen's Personality? Where Do You Come In? How to Find a Way Out. Part II: 10 Steps to a Better Relationship with Your Teen - and a Better Future for Your Teen. Getting Ready. Step 1: Making Positive One-on-One Time a Habit. Step 2: A New Way to Manage Behavior. Step 3: Contracts and Point Systems: How Teens Can Earn Privileges. Step 4: Making the Punishment Really Fit the Crime. Step 5: Tackling Additional Issues with Rewards and Penalties. Step 6: Addressing Defiant Behavior in School and Conflicts over Homework. Step 7: Using Problem-Solving Skills. Step 8: Learning and Practicing Communication Skills. Step 9: Dealing with Unreasonable Beliefs and Expectations. Step 10: Keeping It Together. Appendix A: Sample Problem-Solving Worksheets. Appendix B: How to Find a Therapist. Resources.
Russell A. Barkley, PhD, is Research Professor of Psychiatry at the SUNY Upstate Medical University at Syracuse. Dr. Barkley has published numerous books and videos on child and adolescent psychology. He is a frequent lecturer who is widely cited in the national media and is a past president of the International Society for Research in Child and Adolescent Psychopathology. His previous books include the bestsellers Taking Charge of ADHD and Your Defiant Child. Arthur L. Robin, PhD, is a Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences at Wayne State University, Director of Psychology Training at Children's Hospital of Michigan, and a practicing psychologist in Michigan with more than three decades of experience. He has written three additional books, including Defiant Teens with Dr. Barkley. Christine M. Benton is a Chicago-based writer and editor. Her previous books with Dr. Barkley include Your Defiant Child.
'The very best book of its kind for parents dealing with behaviorally difficult teens. Valuable real-life examples illuminate not just what defiance looks like, but why it happens, and how to bring about change while strengthening family relationships. This will be the first book I recommend to the families I work with.' - Sam Goldstein, PhD, Department of Psychology, George Mason University, USA
'This practical book shows how real change starts with you, the parent, and provides empowering tools and step-by-step guidance for making a positive difference in teen behavior. It is an excellent resource that will help you become a stronger positive influence in your teen's life.' - Sharon K. Weiss, MEd, coauthor of From Chaos to Calm and Angry Children, Worried Parents
'Drs. Barkley and Robin have hit gold - this book is a real treasure! The book provides very practical strategies for managing teenagers' behavior and enhancing family relationships. It is written specifically for parents, but professionals and students also will find it a 'must read.' The authors should be congratulated for this brilliant work that will be of value to so many families in the years to come.' - Ronald T. Brown, PhD, Dean, Temple University College of Health Professions; Editor, Journal of Pediatric Psychology
'As my son enters his adolescent years, I am thrilled to have this book! It is an easy read with many practical, commonsense ideas to try. The checklists and step-by-step approaches are very inviting. With all the pages to personalize our specific problem areas, it felt as though this book were truly written for my family. I am thrilled to be able to implement positive practices instead of always dwelling on the negative. I have already told many fellow parents and teachers about this book.' - Lisa Boyadjian, elementary school teacher, USA and parent of a 12-year-old with ADHD